Thats what this day last year was for Steve, he was determined to live his life to the fullest and that commenced on October 4th. It was a good day for him, read his blog, (Click here)
The story that fits around this though highlights how happy he actually was on that day. For as long as I had known Steve he had never been able to find his birth certificate. He knew it was safe somewhere but he had no idea where, even though he had searched for it many times.
When I returned from work on 4th October 2010 Steve was VERY excited. "I've had a sign" he said. I had no idea what he was on about but he explained.
Whilst sorting through some papers, getting rid of the old stuff and making way for his new life he found his Birth Certificate. It had been missing for years and there it was, amongst some old papers. He waved his certicficate at me and was SO pleased. It really was the first day of the rest of his life.
He died just 9 months later. Someone pointed out to me around the time of the funeral that it takes 9 months for a child to be born from conception, (I did go to biology lessons but some people like to remind us of the obvious), perhaps the nine months from finding his certificate was significant of a new start and a new life in a better place. Who knows?
I know I am still missing him a huge amount, I manage to smile and function as a member of society and as a member of the workplace, functioning as a son, a brother, a friend and a colleague but, it is just that, functioning. I'm getting used to it though. I accept my life may never feel "whole" again.
I chatted tonight with a friend about someone we care about. In a similar situation to me but being judged for grasping at happiness and dating. It wasn't planned but, being judged for being human and acknowledging feelings is wrong. I might be in a similar position one day. I am not looking for anyone else but I also know fate will deliver whatever it has planned for me. I just hope in the meantime that Steve can influence the "chosen one". Either way I am sure there will be plenty said behind my back and less said to my face. Lets just see what happens eh.....
Goodnight for now xxx